I was at a beautiful wedding recently, and was joking with friends about one tradition. We’ve all been to weddings before where we’ve seen some form of this. As the bride gets ready to throw the bouquet, women gather around quickly like free tickets to the Maxwell concert are being passed out. Even in their dresses, some take a quick stretch before this challenge, because it’s. about. to. go. down. Then the bride tosses the bouquet and even the lady with the highest of heels on, reaches up and slightly pushes somebody out the way if she has to.
The focus.
The grit.
The determination.
Now it’s time for the fellas. As the groom gets ready, men slooowly get out of their seats. Some actually don’t get up at all, and have to be dragged by friends to the floor. Then there are those who have long time girlfriends in the building, who better act like they want to do this. Now the groom tosses the garter, and shockingly to no one, it’s that scene from the Best Man all over again, or worse.
So what’s up with this? Although these wedding tosses are just symbolic and all in good fun, there is some truth to the eagerness vs the reluctance and there are some questions we should ask here. Why are most women, even those that aren’t even dating, so eager to get married, but men for the most part just don’t wanna catch that garter?
Of course I can really only speak from a man’s point of view, but here’s my take. From young, like age 7 and 8 young, little girls all over are primed for their wedding day. They’re told this will be the most beautiful experience of their lives and that marriage will essentially make them whole. So even at a young age many little girls, who will one day become grown bouquet catchers, are dreaming of walking down the aisle and what their fairy tale life will look like. Most men, on the other hand, are told that their wedding day will be the end of life as they know it. Forget hanging out with the fellas, partying up late or just having good fun; that life is over brother.
These two perspectives are so far from each other it’s not even funny y’all, and I believe it’s time we change that. Because the truth is, most of what they told us about weddings, marriages and long term happily ever after relationships period, was a lie. Your life is far from over, but it sure as hell ain’t a fairy tale everyday either. Want to know what the truth is?
Nah, just joking lol. I think most of you reading this now can handle the truth, but you’ll have to wait for my next post to read about it.
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-Coach Sorsby
Trying to run toward what I used to run from.
Mind.Body.Spirit.